3-2-2025 MY WEEK: i live for the applause

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     happy women's history month and one month of peSuit & tie! i'm thankful to have started this project - it's helping me define my style a lot more, and i'm starting to connect small inspirations and influences on a weekly basis. i hope you all enjoy this as much as i do typing up every sunday night. in a way, it is my new digital diary.

    i've been thinking a lot this week about this blog, virality, trends and 'instant fame'. during our outdoor walks (it was very warm at the beginning of the week so we excitedly took our neighborhood walk for the first time this year), sib and i discussed social media and my goal for this blog. i keep my social media pretty private, and i was thinking - would it be better to publicize this more? the thing is - i want to revolt against the instant fame and overnight virality, to practice patience and to use this blog not to yell at the world - hey look at me - but rather take my time and (yes, develop some traction because we live in a society that rewards this) enjoy this ritual. boyfriend asks "what about a youtube vlog?" - my answer is hell no. i am too awkward on camera (it's so bad i was muted for a work promotional video because i couldn't think of a normal sentence). i hate how i look in videos. i'm not the best writer, but this format is more comfortable to me. if you see my tiktok, i prefer curating moments and inspo photos rather than showing my face. 

    here's a shower thought on about being perceived online (especially now, a month since posting here): i fear of being a shell of a three word (or so) aesthetic - something with no true depth or personality (think clean girl or mob wife: who really is she outside of the same regurgitated pinterest photos?). i strive to be more of a flea market with a story, or perhaps an interactive museum? not just a carefully curated gallery, hidden behind thick glass - looking unattainable or unreachable (almost not even real). i need to be reachable and interesting to all (we all want to be relatable, but are we putting effort to relate with others?).  am not ashamed to share my likes, and dislikes - the things i'm learning and the hobbies i'm trying - most importantly i'm not afraid to be imperfect. not ashamed to delve beyond the "perfect aesthetic interests" or to deviate from the perfect slick buns and espresso martinis.
    i need to be the curator or collector of hobbies, knowledge, experiences. is this why i've been painstakingly documenting my life through mediums like diaries, monthly moodboards in journals, now a digital blog like a scrapbook? and i love to revisit them, because i'm a nostalgia addict, not even for what i've lived through, but also for eras before my time, and i need to experience them through books, movies and music of the time.

   in my life, in my blog, i welcome the frida kahlo of female pain. the lucio fontana of meticulously hidden rage. the bob ross of innocent and pure contentment. the keith haring of community. the hilma af klimt of life's balance. the jackson pollock of life's chaos and randomness.

 

    the revolution will not be televised

    in other news, it was time to do my nails this week. a tv glitch style that i saved from a harper's bazaar post in 2019 prompted me to stay up until 1am for some glitchiness. i had to replace two brushes this week. boo.

 here's a recap of my looks over the week.

monday i wore a vintage bruce springsteen concert tee paired with tibi pants i snagged at the designer sale back in november (it comes with a matching top). h&m blazer and leather jacket.

tuesday for work i was excited to bring back skirts: vintage talbots skirt, a white blouse from target, doc martens loafers and my mom's vintage coat.

wednesday it wasn't warm enough to bring back my work dresses fully, so i layered a simple h&m black dress with buttons with a vince camuto 3/4 sleeve sweater. added metallic tights from calzedonia and wearing my heart on my doc's.

i always feel like i came out of the 70s with these forever 21 burnt orange pants (especially paired with a turtle neck and the vintage coat - who's going to start yelling marsha, marsha, marsha!).
thursday @ work



thursday at yoga i wore an all black ensemble and a t shirt from niall horan's concert i went to last summer. boyfriend joined sib and i this yoga session. dude barely survived the heat of power yoga 




i copied wednesday's look for friday too - a vince sweater dress thrifted in nyc topped with a forever 21 sweater and a fluffy coat. very black and white. 


friday night another yoga session (sans boyfriend - he needed to recover). another singer t shirt, this time elton john (bought at the rock and roll hall of fame)


saturday we ran some errands at the local butcher shop and olive oil store and it was extremely cold again. wore a perfectly winter themed granny sweatshirt, old navy jeans and carried some of my fave totes around. 


a more relaxed version of this look for the evening as boyfriend and i treated ourselves with an ice cream date at malley's 














today was sib's baking day where she made loaves of homemade bread, and a chocolate and orange bundt cake, a variation of a chocolate orange cake our mom used to do around christmas time when we were younger. i have to say -  sib's version is a bit better than mom's. 

what am i looking forward to this week?

    we're finally being blessed with VG's presence back in the states after rebuking the diaspora way of living and going full cro-mode. 
    mardi gras is this tuesday and sib and i are in need to go to bourbon street barrel room downtown to have some jambalaya and alligator bites.
    karaoke for my clients is this wednesday at the local dive bar and i am hoping to see them perform again this month.
    is VG teaching me how to ski this thursday? we shall see. if not, i've got some ideas how to spend the evening: sake tasting at red, wine and brew, or to head to the rock and roll hall of fame to watch an amy winehouse documentary. we shall see...
    friday and saturday are spent with friends, card night and a birthday celebration. and all of us women should celebrate well for international women's day saturday!

i can say the weather is still super unstable but hopefully will be a tad bit warmer. mother nature, you're a woman too, have mercy on us this month finally!





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